We celebrated New Year's Eve by writing our resolutions. Yawn. Yes, I know it's terribly predictable, but there was a twist, an unexpected one. The twist was the selflessness of what was written, since Dean and I decided to write out 5 for ourselves and 5 for each other. It was a fun and new experience (hopefully to become a tradition) that we enjoyed. What made the experience so unusual, was the fact we had joked about adding each other's bad habits to the resolution list to stop doing. However, neither of us did that. Instead we added things like seeing our families more, spending more time outdoors together, induldging in our hobbies more often. It was quite a wonderful feeling as we read each resolution, one by one, that we had both thought about the other's happiness and more importantly and amazingly, had not duplicated any resolutions. Magic.
As with most resolution making, the 'don't do something anymore' one gets broken sooner rather than later and we give up. I am rather glad that the majority of my resolutions were based around positivity and did not contain the words 'stop' or 'quit'. It's rather difficult to fail 'spend more time fishing'. Sure, you may not go as often as you'd like to or intended to, but short of never going, you have the drive and desire to do what you want and hopefully the positive spin will encourage you to reach your imagined, but not quantified goal.
The best thing about the resolutions we set is we effectively can't fail. This may seem strategic, but it really wasn't. Sometimes the best things that come in to your life are the things you never, even dreamt of until they just happened.
Even if your resolution was to quit something, remember if you stray a little, that you can always try again, setting a goal and not succeeding straight away does not mean you have failed. In fact, I think saying you 'fell seven times, and got up eight' sounds a hell of a lot more interesting, realistic and damn right honest than 'I quit xxxxx on New Year's Day....'. Chinese proverbs can be so inspiring.
Despite our resolutions being positive and probably easily achievable, I have another resolution. I am sure I will feel I failed something several times in 2013 (not resolutions - which is a change for me) but however many times I feel that way, however many times I feel I have fallen, I will always get up one more time. If we encounter anything in life that is a struggle, seems hopeless, no way out, consider ourselves to be going through hell, we will keep on walking and make it all the way through to the other side.
That's the best resolution of all. Not giving up. Ever.
Happy New Year!!